The fake joy of weekends

We all enjoy weekends, specially Sundays, we all feel so happy and share our #weekendvibes #sundayfunday #chill #personaltime #selfcare , etc, etc. hashtags on weekends, because we find it sooo incredible to actually have a free day to do all personal activities we enjoy the most (including simply resting!).

It is outrageous to me that as a society we haven’t improved in that area, all those studies around how some countries have the highest productivity results, working 25-30 hours a week instead of 40-60 as we do now, all those studies around burnout and work-life balance impacting companies much more than anything else, all that information hasn’t mattered enough for all of us to change our perspective around work and “workdays”.

First of all, RESTING should be the #1 priority of everyone! I know, I know, if you are under 30 you won’t really care for this part right now, your body hasn’t resent it yet.
But trust me, there is a reason why all doctors and most high performers in the world prioritize their sleep hours above everything else. If your brain and body doesn’t receive enough sleep, it will always underperform, so if you want to be at the top of your capabilities: then SLEEP! This applies for EVERY DAY of the week not only Sundays!

Second, haven’t you ever felt like a “slave” of your company, of your boss, of your lifestyle, or of your debts? (checkout my blog on financial freedom for my tips there)
Think about it, in the words of Ellen Goldman: “Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to a job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, car and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it.”
So lets break it down, this only makes sense if you:
a) love your job and b) you are consciously working for a specific purpose or impact you aim to have, and you can only have it in collaboration with the company you work at and the coworkers you work with.
Then, if these two things apply to you, CONGRATS! you are at the right place doing the right job! But don’t forget about your personal needs, growth, and development. This includes all the activities you should be able to do every day in order to be a balanced healthy productive human!

Third, last but not least; I encourage you to analyze your days (weekdays & weekends): from waking up to going to bed and the hours in between; how does your day start, how much time you invest in waking up, working out, meditating, preparing and eating breakfast, commuting to work, working hard, lunch time and breaks in between, continuing to work hard, commuting back home, how do you feel after work? motivated? energized? drained?, taking a nap, having dinner, working out, reading a book, writing, painting or doing something creative, working on your side project or hobby, spending time alone, or spending time with your pet, spouse, children, parents, family or friends, going to bed, sleeping, at what time do you sleep? , at what time do you set your alarm clock for next morning? and all over again.
If you were going to write your day like this, how would it look? (if you don’t mind I would love to read it, so please share it with me on the comment section if you can)

Finally, I would like you to ask yourself: Is it the life I want to live? is it the life I am proud of living? Am I living a sustainable life for my own health and people around me? Am I setting a good example?
If the answer is “yes!” then be proud and share it with everyone you can. If the answer is “no..” then sit back and analyze what you can change, how can you add one good habit at the time until you achieve a balanced productive life you are proud of.
And start changing it! Because as Albert Einstein said: “Theย definition of insanity is doing the sameย thing over and over and expecting different results.”

So lets become more sane as a society and find that balance together.

Alex – @theyogicoder

2 Replies to “The fake joy of weekends”

  1. ๐Ÿ˜ I chuckled softly lunch when I read your headline for this blog post. I’m currently in a bus, stuck in traffic on my commute back home.

    I live in Lagos Nigeria, an extremely overpopulated city in sub Saharan Africa. If you’ve ever been to Lagos, you’d know that Lagos and traffic are like 5 and 6 (a Nigerian slang used to denote close similarities between two things).

    Now the major bummer is that the part of the city I live in, a huge road construction project is currently been carried out so the usual traffic has trippled, actually scratch that, it has quadrupled in my area.

    So here goes my daily routine. My alarm rings by 4:40, after about 5mins of snoozing ๐Ÿ˜ด (y’all know how that part of the morning is the sweetest time to sleep) my subconscious mind quietly reminds me that if I don’t get up now, I’d spend a good part of the morning stuck in horrendous traffic, sweating like a Christmas goat (another Nigerian slang) . So I sprng up to get ready for the day.

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    1. ๐Ÿ˜ I chuckled softly when I read your headline for this blog post. Iโ€™m currently in a bus, stuck in traffic on my commute back home.

      I live in Lagos Nigeria, an extremely overpopulated city in Sub Saharan Africa. If youโ€™ve ever been to Lagos, youโ€™d know that Lagos and traffic are like 5 and 6 (a Nigerian slang used to denote close similarities between two things).

      Now the major bummer is that the part of the city I live in, a huge road construction project is currently been carried out so the usual traffic has trippled, actually scratch that, it has quadrupled in my area.

      So here goes my daily routine. My alarm rings by 4:40am, after about 5mins of snoozing ๐Ÿ˜ด (yโ€™all know how that part of the morning is the sweetest time to sleep) my subconscious mind quietly reminds me that if I donโ€™t get up now, Iโ€™d spend a good part of the morning stuck in horrendous traffic, sweating like a Christmas goat (another Nigerian slang) and sandwiched between two equally pespiring humans . So I spring up to get ready for the day. It takes me usually 80 – 90 minutes to get set and I hit the road.

      In a good morning, my commute to work is 60 – 80 minutes, in a bad morning (which is 80% of the time ) it is 100 – 130 minutes, in a terrible morning 130 – 190 minutes. The length of time being totally dependent on the traffic situation which has mostly resulted as the construction choices the road contractors choose to make for that day and how early I left home.

      When I finally get to work, it takes me about 30 mins to an hour (in-between readjusting my dishelved self, greeting and exchanging banters with colleagues, eating breakfast, setting up my work environment e.t.c) for me to get to work.

      So I power my laptop, scan through my mails (and reply the ones I need to), open up my editor (phpStorm by the way ๐Ÿ˜Š cool stuff) and do what I’m paid to do (write really awesome front-end code) . In between it, I flip through stackoverflow, github, Libraries documentation, MDN, Medium and whatever relevant piece of information that’s out there and attend meetings.

      Then comes lunch and before you know it, it’s 5pm. On a good day, I leave work by 5:30pm and start my commute back home. It takes me 110 – 170 minutes or more to get home. Hopefully, I get home before 8pm, take a long shower to scrape off the sweat and dust of the day, eat some fruits I bought on my way back , read one or two articles, surf the web, Watch TV, sort out lunch for the next day and miraculously get to bed before 11pm.

      The next day, the cycle continues. The only thing that changes is the time I wake up. It keeps shifting upwards as the week progresses, eventually on Friday I can wake up as late as 6:15am, as the traffic situation will probably be mild.

      By the end of Friday, the tension of the week is already crackling and I just can’t wait for the weekend to come.

      On Saturday and Sunday mornings (if I don’t have any meet-up or event to attend) I summon up all the audacity I have and sleep well late into the morning ๐Ÿ˜‹ (because, yours truly enjoys her beauty sleep).
      However, when I finally drag up my tired body off the bed, the whole weekend hype starts seeming like a fairytale. The amount of chores I have to do hits me right in the face.

      Because most of my chores (washing clothes, cleaning, going to the market, cooking, ironing, mini-pedicure, making my hair e. t. c) are not automated I usually spend all Saturday and a good part of Saturday doing them.

      On Sunday afternoon, I whip out my laptop, do some personal development. If there are backlogs from work, I work on it and if possible slip in a nap in between.

      By the end of Sunday, it seems as if the weekend came, played some tricks on me and vanished. This phenomenon is what I and a colleague termed THE WEEKEND SCAM.

      On Monday, the cycle repeats.

      NB: I forgot to add that I have recently squeezed 30 – 60 minutes workout sessions on my weekends. So yes, I’m consciously working on living healthy. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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